My fiancé custom made me the most beautiful ring I could of ever hoped for. After we got engaged he told me the whole process he went through to bring it about as well as wrote this article. For those who are not engaged as of yet, it is a wonderful article to share with your future man when the topic of marriage starts coming up!
Picking Out the Perfect Ring
by Dalin Russell
Picking out the perfect ring for the perfect girl can be a stressful and even nerve-racking task. There are so many shapes, clarities, karats and things to consider that it can be daunting finding the one
ring that she will want to wear for the rest of her life. This post will break down your ring searching
experience into simple steps that will not only point you in the direction that you need, but prove to your soon-to-be that you are the stud that she thinks you are. It will take a lot of research, but it will be worth it.
The right ring for your relationship:
If you happen to wander into a jewelry store you will see that there are hundreds of different combinations of bands, diamonds, gems, and materials. In the same respect, there are many different kinds of relationships. To find the right ring you need to first know what type of relationship you have. Does she know that you want to propose? Does she want to pick out the ring herself? Does she want your help in the process? Does she want to be surprised by the ring that you pick out and last, but definitely not least, Does she even know what she wants? These are all questions to think about that will help your experience. Regardless of your relationship the following steps will be the same. However, they just might require a little more work on your part depending on her involvement in this process. The easiest way to determine the above questions is to talk about it. If you are open with each other’s wants then you will know where you’re at. My fiancée and I decided that I would surprise her with the ring. Knowing her preferences I had her ring custom made, piece by piece, and even today I still catch her staring at her ring in admiration.
Find out her preferences:
This can be as simple as going to the store together, finding a ring, and buying it. However, if you want to be more stealth about the operation, there are plenty of ways to take a peek inside
her mind. Most girls have a
Pinterest account-which can serve as windows into your woman's brain for if they have a Pinterest account, then they have a marriage board- trust me, all girls have them. Simply find one of her girlyfriends that you can trust and search your girlfriend's Pinterest through theirs. Girls love to talk, especially about marriage, so asking the same trusted girlyfriend to spy for you is a valuable resource.
Lastly, a casual walk through the mall could get you close enough to a jewelry store to spontaneously
go “look at nice watches.” That can casually lead to looking at rings. While in the jewelry store here are some preferences to look out for:
1) Finding her ring size: This is obviously a pretty important factor and here are a couple ways of finding this out.
-You can ask her, ask her trusted girlyfriend to find out, swipe a ring that she wears (but it must
be from the same finger! The pointer finger is different size than the ring finger), sneak a string or paper around her finger and measure it while she is asleep. Luckily, whichever way you choose you can get the ring resized (whether you got it wrong the first time or when she is due with the first mini-you).
2) Set a Budget: Since the man is the one buying the ring this is more of your preference. However, soon you will be joining bank accounts so it will affect you both. The perfect ring isn’t the biggest or the best looking but instead is the one that’s best for her; and this includes price. Set a limit of how much you will spend, make sure to tell the jewelers, and don’t even look at rings over your limit. A good rule of thumb is to set your limit at the amount of money you make in 3 months.
These next preferences are what govern price and I’ve also listed ways to save on price.
The Rock:
The gem is often the center of attention on rings and also the center of the price. Depending
on her personality, and your confidence, there are many gems to choose from such as Topaz, Ruby,
Morganite…etc. But the most common gemstone for wedding bands is the diamond.
Other gemstones can result in a cheaper ring. But unless you’re confident that she is different most girls expect a diamond. If you are sure on your decision for a diamond, but are worried about the price, a great option is to have the centerpiece be composed up of different little diamonds. By having the centerpiece be composed of lots of little stones it lowers the price of the ring. For some, you may want one complete rock for the centerpiece or center stone and that is completely fine! A great way to look at it though could be that ten or so years down the road, when you have more money, you can upgrade the center stone to one solid rock and save the smaller stones to pass down to children for their rings or put them into rings to give to them as keepsakes. Just a thought.
Here are some things to consider while looking at diamonds.
The 4-c’s: Most jewelers will begin explaining to you the 4 c’s right after learning your name and
situation. The four C’s of a rock are
Color
Carat
Clarity
Cut
The following website can help with these four subjects.
http://www.thediamondbuyingguide.com/fourcsofdiamonds.html
The Band:
This is often the major difference between rings. Traditionally the engagement ring has the
rock on it and is worn during the engagement while one or two more simple matching wedding bands
are given at the ceremony. There are bands of many styles! There is a simple, plain band where you
just see the metal and pave design which includes stones going 2/3 of the way around the ring to a complete circle around. Keep in mind to find a matching wedding band or two. While looking at bands think of your fiancée and her personality. Look for something that matches who she is. An indicator of finding the right band and ring is if it matches your fiancée and has her name written all over it.
Purchasing the Ring: Before you buy a ring, make sure to visit many different jewelers. Many places will be having sales and if you are willing to try, could lower the price for you if you share your shopping experiences at other stores and haggle the price!
On a last note, MAKE SURE TO GET THE RING UNDER WARRANTY!! Every place will offer this and it is very smart to do!